Are they real?

Are they real?


I am referring to what can be called as perfect or ideal or Mills n Boon kind of relationships? It could be a platonic relationship or a committed one. Either ways, happiness is something that all of us want at the end of the day. Now, this is something that all of us know but somehow tend to lose the essence of this along a relationship.


Often relationships get complicated, stressful and a pain in the ass (not literally though), but then they do get sorted if thats what people want, sometimes at the cost of letting go of what they strongly believe in. I feel a lot goes into a relationship. It aint just about yourself. You cant stand firm ground on who you are, with all your flaws and expect the other person to be with you. You do have to slip out of your comfort zone to get on to the common platform with your loved one. And that aint too hard, is it?


There are also relationships when these issues and arguments become a part and parcel of life and thats the time you need to consider ways to get it back to those days of yore of your romance. Sometimes, even that may not work out. Not because either of the two persons involved is wrong but because they cant seem to get to that common ground. Food for thought I am sure.


Well, whether it is friendships or relationships, what is essential is everything should have love, kindness and respect. Not having those elements is definitely not an option. So how I look at relationships is that they should be effortless. There should not be any element of pretence anywhere in the picture. Enjoying each other's company, having fun and trust, sharing both the good and bad times with equal elan and things like that go a long way in building a relationship. Being judgemental is something that should not be there at all. Come hell or high water, you should only have an opinion but never kind of enforcing your views on your partner.


Does this give you a little bit of an insight into where you have been lacking? Then, work on it because its often easier to just make those little efforts or changes rather than calling it off.


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